Why women have affairs?
Speak about a loaded matter that no one wants to chat about, this is it. Amusing thing, extramarital affairs have been going on ever since old ages. Affairs can be loaded with evils, cause misery, and other harms. Plus you should wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and frankness issue, finances, age difference, spiritual background, remorse, and on and on. I suppose there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this article I will classify an affair as a long term, maybe decades long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other persons, dating married woman.
Why do women have affairs? There are as many answers as there are seeking affairs. I am conserned mainly though it is just the human nature, the need for care, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and loved. Here are a few reasons I have run across.
Physically we as humans are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasant and fun, and sex makes us escape the real world for a small period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Someone are able to switch the desire on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and old, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the exhilaration of the hunt. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another person, for some it is the wish to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the total romance thing. These wishes and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos the world has erected against extra-marital affairs. For lots of people the yearnings will defeat their fears and make them risk the rage of not only their relatives, but society also. So why, what is the mechanism?
Sex Addicts, maybe some of us are. Sex is extremely pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically motivated sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not hurt your spouse or anyone else? You would need to lessen the hazard you are taking. If you have the feeling that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the biggest cluster, colossal really. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, apart from they are happy in the manner they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Then there are the children to look after. Your funds are so tangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to live jointly besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that prevent them implementing the sex performance, at least not with their spouse. An extra-marital affair at times solves the problem while keeping the marriage whole.
Avoidance, sadly this is a common cause I fear. One or the other, generally the husband is sexually neglecting his woman for a large humber of reasons. As a male I really appreciate you guys neglecting your ladies and making them accessible to us males of romance, making them “milf wives” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, could be it is a lack of love, maybe compassion is vanished, maybe it is the closeness, could be neglect. Could be we have simply grown separately, our general interests diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is opposite of what you want. Could be I simply don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that feeling that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The ultimate reason people give is, they seek the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to get away, for financial gain, for revenge and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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